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Are you supposed to bury one Grandparent's coffin vault (being relocated), next to the other DURING funeral?

Grandmom past away 10 years ago. But my Dad & Uncles want to relocate her plot to a newer less cramped spot. But My Grandfather passed just recently and they wanted to do it all at the same time, meaning her coffin's vault was dug up and put on a flatbed next to the funeral for my Grandfather. Then DURING the funeral both Grandparents were laid to rest at the same time in the new plot. There were heavy construction equipment used to lower my Grandmom's coffin vault into the burial plot, but it took 45 minutes because the hole dug wasn't large enough etc. It was all kinda clumsy and made some of us very uncomfortable. I'm not in the know on these things (thank goodness) but does all this seem odd to anyone? Or is it just me? Thanks!

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1. Yeah, relocation is usually not done in such a public way. I guess your Dad and uncles thought it would be easier to do both and once, but it definitely should have been done after the funeral.
2. My Grand father past away before i was born and he was buried in a plot that we reserved for him and my grand mother. My grandma past away six years ago and she was led to rest in a vault. We placed her next to her husband. In spite of anything.
3. Odd yes, but not unheard of. The person handling the funeral, the cemetery person and/or the funeral person should have handled it better..
4. Honestly, I would do it the way that yours was done during the funeral....simply because its kind of symbolic to have them laid to rest next to eachother after the other has passed away. Despite the equipment needed to do it and all that, I think its the way I would prefer to have my own funeral if I was the one being buried.
5. I agree with you, it probably could have been better planned and executed. But I suppose the discomforts must be forgiven since there probably aren't many experts to consult on matters as unusual as this. As time goes by, you'll perhaps be able to find some humor in the situation. (I can't help but smile a little at the realization that there were some difficulties in reuniting grandma and grandpa after so many years apart.)
6. your grandma should of been relocated and layed to rest before the ceremony began, what you have said is in really bad taste and if it had been my family i would of raised hell.......sorry to hear about it, good luck..........