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Im at a loss of words and actions what do I do?

What can I do or should I do? Ok my girlfriend is currently vacationing in Washington yesterday she called me and said that she was going to a party I was ok with it because i trust her and everything, of course i got the drunken call and texts from her now i was receiving a text from her literally like every two minutes sometimes less. for the rest of the night she did not call me: however i was still receiving the drunken texts. finally around 2:14am i called her because she had texted me saying shes home in her bed. So were talking and whatnot and she is obviously drunk and out of nowhere she says to me "babe, why are boys mean?" and i replied "what do you mean?" and she repeatedly kept saying "boys are mean babe, but not you" and once again i answered "what happen at the party?" and she responded "i kept saying no" a bunch of time, immediately i was frightened and began to panic. i asked her if anybody touched her and she kept saying "i said no, but they were to big", earlier when we were talking when i first called her she stated that she was bleeding on here side because of a broken glass window, but i asked her again where is she bleeding, she replied "on m pants and my side". I was so scared i was on the brink of tears.finally i just came out with the question "babe were you raped?" she again replied with "i kept saying no"...I became pissed and scared at the fact that my gf could have possibly been raped or a victim of sexual assault. before i could inquire about more information the phone was disconnected i tried calling but no answer. this is a repost of my question becasue i want more asnwers. It turnd out that my gf was raped and im at a loss of words while we were on the phone today she broke down in tears saying shes worthless she doesnt wanna live and i should break up with her i am completely scared and shocked and am at the brink of total destructions towards these sick people who did this it turns out my gf figured out she was raped becasue her ex bf sent a video of her getitng raped to her . what can i say or what can i do to make my gf feel that i can keep her safe that she is wanted and love ive tried telling her over and over and she is very afraid to not be a victim, i told her that she is going to need to get the video back that she deleted becasue the faces of those who committed the act are in there but she says she cant shes feels humiliated. she did not consent to anything

Public Comments

1. report it if it was not consentual. be aware that it may not be rape (in the eyes of the law). she may have agreed and does not want you to break up with her. If she wont report it, think about supporting her through the immediate situation but then leave her eventually. support her and stay by her side. dont say how much you love her etc, show her how you love her by your actions. be a man. its horrible to hear what has happened and i am so sorry to hear it. calm down yourself. think objectively about it. Justice within the context of the legal system is what is important. Encourage her to report it. if not, think about if she is telling the truth or not. if she wont, you can call a police advice line and ask yourself. call the annonymous one.
2. This is what the Police are for have you never seen an episode of Law and order SVU. These cell phone records never go away so she has evidence go and do the right thing.
3. The best thing you can do if confort her and make her feel loved n show her that shes not worthless, the only people who are worthless are the people who did this to her. If you truelly love her then youll understand and from how you felt I think you do. If nothing else the best thing, like I have already said, is to just confort her and hold her close when she needs it. Also, tell her to report it to the police. Rape is Rape. show her that you care and in your eyes shes still has as much value as she did before.